on friendships- life has a way of surprising you. Mostly beautifully and sometimes messy. No body is immune to these experiences. Let’s take a look at friendships. Some of the best gifts bestowed on us is the gift of good friendships. My bestie in high school? Still a bestie. Bestie in Uni still a bestie. After you get out of school and you are by your own, it gets a tad difficult to make friends. Ite easier when you are in the same place, seeing each other each day and taking the same classes. Making a bond there becomes seamless. But life is fair, you will meet other people and you will do life with, you will take vacations, celebrate life milestones, cry over life hard blows together and share secretes. But if we are being honest, it can also be a pain point. Like when my bestie succumbed to a drowning accident last year. Or that time when I got pregnant and close friend ghosted cause …actually I don’t even remember why. And such heartbreaks have the knack to take you out.
On motherhood- my darling daughter is almost 2. She is one happy ball of energy. Every time I see her, I go on my knees to hug her my heart is almost bursting with joy and gratitude. But I am not going to seat here and romanticize motherhood. Motherhood is the USA can be brutal. The village does not always village like back home in Africa. Everybody close to you is chasing what they deem important. it’s just me and her dad. Which I am not complaining since he is a good team player and I cannot imagine doing this life without him. But the never-ending dishes, the everyday laundry, the messy house that does not stay clean no matter how I clean it. The guilt I feel when I let her watch screens so that I can get a minute to myself. How am I supposed to chase all my dreams, workout, drink enough water, eat right and also be a present great mom, wife, daughter, sister and friend. But I am not complaining. Okay maybe I am a little bit. God’s great has been very sufficient.
On marriage- my man and I need a vacation asap. I am realizing that all our conversations currently are about baby. Has she eaten? Has she pooped? Bills? Business? I need to be in a resort with that man. I need to be reading a nice book, and him rubbing my feet. I remember how he used to look at me when I got into a room. His eyes used to dilate, his breathing would change and sometimes things would get hard. Lol. But now we are mostly tired. Like yesterday our bundle of joy decided to wake up at 2am and did not go back to sleep until 5am.
On God- I am learning to know God for myself. I’ve always gone to church almost every Sunday. But now I am learning that I need to have an intimate relationship with him. I need him more than ever.
On career – I have been a lawyer for a while, a travel nurse for a long while. I can feel the burn out of bedside nursing. That begs the question, how many times do we get to change careers in this life.
On writing – I continue to have a deep desire to create beautiful words that make people feel beautiful things.
Soldier Gal 